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June 6, 2011

For Women

How to Help a Friend or Family Member Who’s Been Raped

What you communicate to your friend, daughter, or loved one is extremely important. What you say, and don’t say, will effect how quickly a rape victim recovers. DO: Say “I BELIEVE YOU.” Tell her “IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT.” LISTEN. She will need someone to talk to, who won’t criticize her judgment, show disgust instead of support, or be overly curious about  ...

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For Men

Male Survivors of Sexual Assault

(Courtesy of Men Can Stop Rape) What you should know… about men who have been sexually assaulted Rape is a men’s issue for many reasons. One we don’t often talk about is the fact that men are sexually assaulted. We need to start recognizing the presence of male survivors and acknowledging their unique experience. The following  ...

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For Men

Stopping Rape: What Men Can Do

(Courtesy of Men Can Stop Rape) All men can play a vital role in rape prevention. Here are a few of the ways: Be aware of language Words are very powerful, especially when spoken by people with power over others. We live in a society in which words are often used to put women down, where calling a girl or woman a “bitch,”  ...

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For Men

Supporting Survivors

(Courtesy of Men Can Stop Rape) When someone says, “I was raped”… Believe Them It is not your role to question whether a rape occurred but to be there to ease the pain. The fact is that false rape reports are no more nor less common than false reports for other violent crimes. Help Them Explore Their Options Don’t take charge of  ...

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For Parents

For More Information

We provide services and information to family members as well as victims of dating violence. Call 272-3467 for help and information. Web links on information for teens There are several sites just for teens that we’ve put on our teen page that are equally informative for parents. For additional information, look at the following sites: SAFESTATE This is  ...

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For Parents

Date Rape: What You Need to Know

Date Rape is a crime that is rarely reported, yet takes place frequently right here in Nevada County. ONE OUT OF EVERY THREE SEXUAL ASSAULTS THAT WE SEE IS A YOUTH BETWEEN 12 AND 17 YEARS OLD. A sexual act is considered rape if it takes place without consent freely given. No matter what. No matter what the circumstances are, what clothes were worn,  ...

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For Parents

Talking With Your Teens

Talk With Your Teen – But Listen More Than You Talk When it comes to tough subjects, teens have a hard time talking to their parents. Many teens are protective of their parents’ feelings and don’t want to upset them. And most parents have a hard time listening without reacting, judging, or wanting to tell our teens what to do. We, as  ...

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For Parents

Sexual Assault Violence That’s Not About Sex

What is sexual assault? Sexual assault is an act in which sex is used as a weapon. Sexual harassment, incest, molestation, indecent exposure, and rape are all examples of sexual assault. They all include unwanted, forced sexual contact, and they are all against the law. What do you mean, it’s not about sex? Sexual assault is about asserting power and  ...

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For Teens

Teen Resources

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month is a national effort to raise awareness about abuse in teen and 20-something relationships and promote programs that prevent it during the month of February. Love is Respect Get information, counseling and support for dating violence and dating questions and  ...

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For Women

Quiz: Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

Dating Violence: answer these questions honestly! About 3 out of 4 dating relationships of high school students in Nevada County are healthy ones. Yours should be, too! Are you ever frightened of your partner’s temper? Does he/she get jealous when you hang out with other friends or your family? Have you stopped hanging out with them to keep your partner  ...

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